You’re angry as hell at the spouse you thought you knew. You want to hire the meanest, toughest SOB divorce lawyer you can find and exact the retribution you deserve by going to court. How could a judge not agree that your spouse is a complete (insert description...
When you see the list of documents that will be gathered and exchanged by you and your spouse in the collaborative process, it will probably seem overwhelming. However, the documents are essential to the process for a number of reasons. First, transparency is...
When I first began my collaborative practice, I wondered why a financial neutral was necessary. I routinely prepare spreadsheets detailing marital assets and liabilities for purposes of negotiating division of property. I also work with my clients to prepare budgets...
Divorce is no doubt one of the most challenging times of a person’s life. The hurtful words spoken and actions taken leading up to the decision to divorce often continue right into the divorce process. For more than sixteen years working as a divorce Coach...
Should I Trust a Recommendation from My Spouse’s Collaborative Attorney About Who to Hire to Represent Me? Here is a common hypothetical scenario to consider: you and your spouse are preparing to separate, or have recently separated, and your spouse has hired a...
The financial adjustment to divorce commonly gets pushed to the back-burner as the process unfolds. This is understandable given the emotional toil and the nature of “putting out the fire immediately in front of you.” However a divorcee’s long-term...
As with any difficult news, there is never truly a “good time” to explain too your children that you will be separating. It does help though, to choose a time when they will be able to process the information and come back with questions later as they begin to digest...
Divorce doesn’t eliminate the concerns you insured against as a married couple. In fact new needs are generated. The child support-paying spouse may be the noncustodial parent, but he/she will still want to ensure the children’s basic needs are met and provide...
A collaborative divorce coach can provide many different services during the divorce process. Here are three primary roles if you engage the services of a coach: 1) Help negotiate agreements: If your meetings are engaged as a couple with one coach, the role of the...
Divorce is one of the most stressful life events one can experience. On the Holmes-Rahe Stress Inventory, it ranks above going to jail, and is second only to the death of a spouse. When children are involved, parents’ emotions are especially high, as they...
