Divorce is no doubt one of the most challenging times of a person’s life. The hurtful words spoken and actions taken leading up to the decision to divorce often continue right into the divorce process.
For more than sixteen years working as a divorce Coach I hear and feel the beating a person’s self-worth takes because of the divorce – and this is true for the person who initiates the divorce as well as the person who has been left through the process of divorce.
Speaking of divorce processes, as I always strongly recommend to my clients, take this step very seriously. Be open to learn and hear about your options. I have found the Collaborative Divorce process to be one that is more healing than others. Choose well my friend. But for now I would like to offer you what I offer all my clients as a sort of mantra to live by during this difficult season in hopes of offering themselves a little more self-compassion.
Today I will live through the next 24 hours and not try to tackle all my problems at once.
Today I will improve myself, body, mind and spirit.
Today I will refuse to spend time worrying about what might happen if…
Today I will not imagine what I would do if things were different. They are not different. I will do my best with what resources I have.
Today I will find the grace to let go of resentments of others and self-condemnation over past mistakes.
Today I will not try to change, improve anybody but me.
Today I will act toward others as though this will be my last day on earth.
Today I will be unafraid. I will enjoy what is beautiful, and I will believe that as I give to the world, the world will give to me.
Anonymously written
I hope you find these words inspirational as you walk the journey of divorce but as you walk through the rest of your days. Be strong, be courageous and be present in your life.
Sandra Lee is a Certified Divorce Coach and Divorce Mediator with Emerge Victorious, growing through and beyond divorce and has 16 years of experience. www.EmergeVictorious.com